IS IT TIME?
Reading an article on “I’ll know when it’s time” by Charmaine Timothy (Founder – The Wonder Women World) got me thinking if I’ll know “when it’s time” too.
I am a mother of two extremely energetic, bubbly and gentle boys (5.5 and 2). Having two boys, I never even thought I would have to talk about periods and the likes. But now with the boys growing up, I am forced to rethink this thought!
Is this a talk meant only for a girl? Are boys not supposed to be educated about periods as early as the girls have to be? Are they to be less sensitive to these biological and physical changes than a girl? How will I know when I am ready to have the talk – and not just about the birds and the bees, but about periods and the changes that girls go through.
With Sex education now being almost a mandate in many schools, does my responsibility towards educating my own boys about these changes reduce?
With so many questions in my mind – I wonder, will my boys not start questioning me about the things they observe around them? I have already been questioned by my older boy when he was accompanying me on my monthly super market visit. As I picked up our shampoos and soaps and toothpastes, I also picked up my monthly stash of pads. Promptly (and to my utter dismay), the question came –“What is this, Mama?” I answered, “It’s for Mama”. And then, “O.K., It’s for you, but what is it? And why do you need it?” I just answered then “Mama needs it now. It’s a grown up thing”, and I was then so glad that the end of that aisle led to his favourite chips aisle! 😀
When we were growing up, periods were a very very hushed topic. A girl who had stained her dress / uniform would be made fun of. She would be embarrassed for days together and I guess somewhere she would never forget the day she stained her clothes. It was not a topic the boys were supposed to know. We would be embarrassed even if the word was mentioned. But, in this modern fast paced world that we all have built for ourselves, the boys are being involved in as many roles that culturally / traditionally were considered a girls duty.
So when my boys are studying in the same schools, it is my responsibility as a mother to be able to teach them to be more sensitive to these changes. In many ways they may not be able to help, but understanding is something that I definitely want my boys to learn. And what better way to teach them about this, than the first hand experiences from their own mother.
So will I know when it’s time to talk to my boys about it – I do not know. But I do know that by realizing I have to make them understand these natural, normal and physical changes, I have taken the 1st step towards it. Of course I wouldn’t want to introduce them to the topic earlier than needed but at an age where they have a sense of understanding and the curiosity to question. And for now, I will do my best to create an environment, that when they do reach that age, they will feel it but natural to come ask their mama or dada about it.
Anne is a mother of two little boys and a HR professional. Naturally curious with a predisposition try and plan everything, Anne took a break from her career to invest time in the early development of her children and feels that it’s been a wonderful learning experience for her. She likes to read and spends her free time (whatever little there is :)) trying her hand at painting or baking.
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