THE NEED FOR VALIDATION
Social media is part and parcel of our lives now. We cannot possibly think of days without connecting with people on social media. Facebook, especially has become home to us. It has become a place of banter. A place to meet new people and most importantly, a place to seek validation.
My question is simple. Is the validation that we seek from social media slowly becoming a reason for our sadness and happiness?
I believe it is. Let’s not deny it. It happened to me. And let me be absolutely honest and candid in accepting that. The number of likes and comments started making me sad or happy. There was a certain validation that I was seeking from these numbers. I felt dejected when the numbers where less.
There was a tinge of self doubt every time I didn’t see the satisfying numbers of like and comments on my timeline. And, in many ways, I was obviously ruled by the number game of social media. I was getting tangled in the vicious game of validation. I was. Thankfully, I have moved out of it. But I know many haven’t. Social media is definitely a thing that needs a prudent indulgence. I know friends who behave abnormally if their pictures aren’t liked much. They get offended if they aren’t appreciated enough.
Who are these people? And why is their approval suddenly so important to us? Why are tamed in a certain way? Unknowingly, but surely. It is a curse, I say. In the pursuit of happiness, are we venturing into wrong place? The curse of social media. A curse that is perhaps denting a person’s confidence more that uplifting. A picture. A write up. A dance or a travel. Everything is being weighed in the public eye. And we are hopelessly seeking and waiting to be validated. From the unknowns. Think about it. Think how things are panning out. Think how we are being controlled by others? Is that what we aim for in life? Can this make us happy, really? Truly? No na !
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